Anonymous asked: Soo, I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. I found out a couple months ago he'd been cheating on me. Not physically. but by sending dirty messages and pictures. He says he'll never do it again, etc. But I want to see if he's still doing it.. So I was wondering if you would allow me to use your pictures to create a fake facebook and blog to see if he'll take the bait...?
Definitely not but thanks for asking anyway. Honestly, if you’re worried about this, find someone else. Be in a relationship where you can truly trust.
The world is full of garbage because you treat the garbage like treasure, and this is why it will never go away.
I suspect it’s difficult for men to imagine a world in which their bodies have long been inextricably linked to their value as an individual, and that no matter how encouraging your parents were or how many positive female role models you had or how self-confident you feel, there is an ever-present pressure that creeps in from all sides, whispering in your ear that you are your body and your body defines you. A world where, from the time of pubescence on, you can feel the constant and palpable weight of the male gaze, and not just from your male peers but from teachers and sports coaches and the fathers of the children you baby-sit, people you’re supposed to respect and trust and look up to, and that first realization that you are being looked at in that way is the beginning of a self-consciousness that you will be unable to shake for the rest of your life.
Even if they are never verbalized, the rules of bodily conduct for females become clear early on: when school administrators reprimand you for the inch of midriff that shows when you lift your hands straight in the air or youth group leaders tell you that the sight of your unintentional cleavage is what causes godly young men to fall, you learn that your body is dangerous and shameful and that it’s your responsibility to cloister it in a way that is acceptable to everyone else. You learn that your body is a topic of public debate that everyone is entitled to weigh in on, from a male classmate telling you that those jeans make your ass look huge to the male-dominated United States Congress dictating the parameters that rape must fall within to be considered legitimate. To be a woman, and to live life in a woman’s body, is to be held to a set of comically paradoxical standards that make you constantly second-guess yourself and jump through a million hoops in pursuit of an impossible perfection.
Seriously you’re retarded if you’re going to bash girls for being pregnant. If you have sex at all, YOUR GIRL CAN GET PREGNANT TOO, and does that make your girlfriend anything less than she was before she was pregnant? NO. shut up. sure, you can be careful. but it can still happen. and who is to say that girl wasn’t careful? you know nothing.
kissing-the-shadowz asked: Yeah, society can be really messed up & it's completely pathetic that those guys were making fun of the fact that that girl was raped.
For sure. It was very disturbing but it’s a harsh reality. I’m just glad there are good people still. That’s something I need to keep in mind. You and Des need to come to Athens sometime soon. :)
hailxlucipur asked: So you're kind of awesome :33
C: aww you’re awesome yourself and I miss you.
kissing-the-shadowz asked: That post was completely true. Just out of curiosity, who was it about?
It was about society as a whole. The recent thing about the football players joking around about raping that girl got to me. And all over tumblr people’s post were the same things over and over. I just get tired of everyone being so shallow.
I’m disgusted in what I see everyday.. surrounded by people who think they know everything. It’s completely acceptable for you to make a joke about rape when you would have NO damn clue what it would be like to have no control over what happens to your own body. It’s completely okay to judge someone’s beliefs when you have ZERO knowledge about what that belief actually encompasses. You think you know what beauty is. If you define what beauty is with the posts of naked girls throwing their ass in the air, you’re clueless. You are one person behind closed doors, yet in public you are completely different. I’m horrified at what I watch, read, and hear everyday. I hate what the media is shoving down our throats, and what ignorant people like you promote. I know I’m not perfect but at least my eyes are open. You’re shallow.